What Kind of Love Are You Making? {A Book Review}

I recently had a conversation with a friend from church about talking candidly with others with in the christian community about real heart issues. We discussed the fact that lots of people are very private, but most people are very appreciative of a friend who is more open, because it demonstrates trust.  We also addressed the fact that sex and intimacy is not often talked about, and how refreshing it is when other couples are willing to talk more openly with newlyweds about this topic.

Fast forward a week and I received an email from Moody Publishers about this new book What kind of love are you making? by Linda Dillow and Dr. Julie Slattery.  When I looked up the description on amazon, I was thrilled to have this opportunity. So I promptly said yes and got to reading.

I think this is a very timely book in Christian circles. We live in a society that is currently hyper focused on sex and sexuality. TV, movies and books address this topic openly and even sometimes forcefully. Yet the topic of intimacy is often NOT a part of the picture.  But what about the church? What about the bible? What about in christian circles? It is still often brushed under the rug, and maybe even painted in a negative light due to the focus in pop-culture on this topic.

This book is built as a bible study. You can read it alone, with a friend or in a small group of women. It is designed to get you thinking (and talking) about intimacy in marriage. I love that the book comes with rules about discussing these topics with others. The rules allow for clear boundaries about privacy while still creating a safe guide to use in interacting with others on the topic of intimacy.

It is broken down into 10 weeks and each week has 5 days of study. Each day has a devotion, scripture and guiding questions (with room to write out your answers). After reading the book myself (quickly), I am definitely hoping I can find a friend or two to work through the book with.  I do think that discussing the topics with a trusted married friend would enhance this book.

The authors take a very holistic look at sex and intimacy in marriage.  This book is not just about sex.  It is about respect, integrity, truth, forgiveness, temptations and faith. The book is packed with scripture, taking a look about what God says about sex in marriage and addressing some of the misconceptions about sex that churches have held for centuries.

This book is not just for the newlyweds, it is for those of us married for a few years and women who have been married for most of their lives. I think that any christian woman would gain a fresh new look at their marriage from reading this book. I am honestly looking forward to spending more time reading this book and really diving into the questions provided. I am hoping to find a friend (or two) who would be willing to work through it with me.


  1. First of all, that is one attention grabbing title! But more importantly, YES! This is a subject that we need to be more open about. The messages we hear and see in the media are so pervasive; we need to balance them out with a healthy perspective on honest, committed love. Thanks for the recommendation, Allison.