Today was a long day. Instead of coming home around 3 like a normal day I had to stay at school for a class, which basically added 3 hours to my day. I barely made it home in time to snuggle M before I put her in bed for the night. On days like this I have to re-evaluate my expectations of what makes me a good mom.
It isn’t how much time I spent with M today.
It isn’t how clean my kitchen is or how much laundry I have done.
It isn’t how many books I read to my daughter or how many songs I sung.
It isn’t whether or not I remembered to try to ‘teach’ her manners or if I remembered to have her ‘help’ me pick up her toys before bed time.
It isn’t how many times I nursed her today or how many vegetables she ate for dinner .
It is that I loved her today.
It is okay to simplify your expectation on the long days, on the days when you have had enough of the crying/whining or on the days you just need a second to yourself. It is okay to simply judge the success of your day on whether or not you showed love to your kiddos and made them feel safe.