Whether you go back after 8 weeks or 2 years, when you go back the transition is going to be hard. I already shared a bit about my transition on day one, but I wanted to share some things that made it easier for me. Because anything you can do to help with the transition is worth it.
Seek out other working moms. Find them in your neighborhood, at work, at church or online. They are our there. Sometimes this means talking to older moms and finding out they worked when their kids were little too. I am lucky to be a part of a church where working moms are supported and in abundance (well my church is only made up of about 40 people so the fact that there are several other working moms at my church counts as in abundance), but I know this isn’t the case for all churches. If you happen to go to a church with lots of stay-at-home moms try to find them elsewhere, or find out if the stay-at-home moms have always been that way, I bet some of them went back to work after they had their first kiddo.
Don’t assume you will hate it before you give it a chance. I really thought I would hate going back to work, but I didn’t There are days that I hate it, but overall I actually like it. If you liked your job before there is a good chance you will still like it when you go back. Not everyone does though, but don’t give up before you even try.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Ask for help from your spouse, make him aware that you are nervous about the transition and see if he can pick up some of the cooking and cleaning around the house. Seek out help at work with the transition and be honest with your boss (if you feel comfortable) about your needs.
Don’t feel guilty about needing a break from your kids on the weekend. I really struggled with this at first. I was so exhausted from the week of work that I would want to take a nap on the weekend or just go out and get coffee during the day by myself. But then I started to feel guilty for wanting to give up time with my baby for time alone. There is nothing wrong with needing a break and you don’t need to feel guilty about taking one.
Consider unplugging from social media or blogging. The first 3 months I was back I probably blogged 3-4 times. I felt really guilty at first, but then I realized I needed to prioritize. I enjoy blogging and I find it to be a great outlet for me, but I had to cut back for a while to get my feet on the ground. I was really worried at first I would never want to go back, but then I realized that it is okay if I never go back to blogging. When I did start blogging again my reasons for blogging completely changed.
Learn to say no. I think I will talk more about this another day because it is a huge struggle of mine.
If you are a working mom, what helped you with your transition back to work? I’d love to hear your thoughts!